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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 02:20 am | 51st Post |
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leet44 wrote: I get a little heated over this so I was hoping I came across the right way .
Thanks Deb
It was a great post, Lee! Very well said!
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 02:41 am | 52nd Post |
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hstrybuf wrote: leet44 wrote: I get a little heated over this so I was hoping I came across the right way .
Thanks Deb
Looked good to me Lee!
You know, whether you work with the disabled or they're members of your family, they give you a whole new perspective on life. It can be difficult at times, but their achievements, no matter how small, are the reward. The mother in question could use a great deal of guidance, but probably won't be aware of or take advantage of the resources available. How sad for the children.
Exactly Deb
How sad for her children
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 02:58 am | 53rd Post |
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BeckyThane wrote: clgcruiser wrote: THAT is precisely why I broke up with a guy I was dating about 10 years ago! He was raising a kid that behaved just like that-I was SO mortified to go anywhere with them. Of course, people would look at me, assuming he was MY child. It got to the point that the minute he started acting like that, I would walk out of the store or restaurant!
One of the only times that I was the one to call things off! It did give me a little insight about what men must go through when they date women with children. . .
Several years ago my Dad dated a woman with a child like that. (Sis and I thought he was absolutely, certifiably NUTS for dating a woman with a school-age child, anyway. ) The relationship abruptly ended when they were out to dinner one night, the kid started acting like that, and Dad blithely suggested they should duct-tape him to the leg of the table. 
That was definitely how I felt, and I was at a point where I couldn't hardly be nice about it any more. Looking back now, I believe that he was autistic-now that I have a mildly autistic grandson, I really think he (the ex-boyfriend's son) had all the classic signs.
The difference, my grandson got identified while young and got the help he needed, which made all the difference in the world. He is very smart-just have to make sure he learns in a way that makes sense to him, and that he is prepared for changes. They freak out when things are unfamiliar or if they are overstimulated. One time at a wedding reception, the music was extremely loud, and my poor grandson sat curled in a corner with his hands clamped tightly over his ears. It was unbearable to him. He has a lot of sensory issues-can't tolerate loud noises, hates being dirty or sticky, wouldn't jump in leaves or touch finger paints, etc. Also doesn't process pain properly-this can be a big problem!
He's very smart with things like numbers, time, etc. Don't get me wrong-NOT like Rainmain! In most ways he's a normal little boy. He does need time to think through questions-if someone tries to repeat too quickly or change the subject-he has to go back to the beginning. His condition is known as Ausberger's.
I do believe that mother was overwhelmed-it is a horribly frustrating condition. Then to add another handicapped child and 2 others besides-that's a recipe for disaster, especially if she's trying to manage alone. Could be she doesn't know how to seek the right help-if that's the case, that is a very sad situation. If not, then she is definitely being negligent.
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 03:02 am | 54th Post |
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Catnip wrote: leet44 wrote: I get a little heated over this so I was hoping I came across the right way .
Thanks Deb
It was a great post, Lee! Very well said!
I agree! And I understand how you feel-I tend to get on my soapbox and won't shut up when I get going-prolly comes from being short and always trying to get someone's attention!
"Hey, Tarbender! Down here!" :shottime:
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 03:41 am | 55th Post |
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Catnip wrote: leet44 wrote: I get a little heated over this so I was hoping I came across the right way .
Thanks Deb
It was a great post, Lee! Very well said!
You know Denise as a *joke* dh and I would say If we only would have had the dog and kitten first we may have thought twice about having kids In fact the dog was my third kid .Got that feeling of maybe I want another. Ds was around three .Joe ran and brought home Scruffy . It worked plus Joe got fixed
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 03:47 am | 56th Post |
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clgcruiser wrote: Catnip wrote: leet44 wrote: I get a little heated over this so I was hoping I came across the right way .
Thanks Deb
It was a great post, Lee! Very well said!
I agree! And I understand how you feel-I tend to get on my soapbox and won't shut up when I get going-prolly comes from being short and always trying to get someone's attention!
"Hey, Tarbender! Down here!" :shottime:
I'm only 5'3Last edited on Wed Jul 9th, 2008 03:49 am by leet44
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 04:09 am | 57th Post |
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leet44 wrote: clgcruiser wrote: Catnip wrote: leet44 wrote: I get a little heated over this so I was hoping I came across the right way .
Thanks Deb
It was a great post, Lee! Very well said!
I agree! And I understand how you feel-I tend to get on my soapbox and won't shut up when I get going-prolly comes from being short and always trying to get someone's attention!
"Hey, Tarbender! Down here!" :shottime:
I'm only 5'3
I'm 5'0"!! Used to be 5'2"! I know where it went-to my azz and my stomach-somehow I got all squashed down. . . Mebbe somebody dropped a car on me. . . Yeah, that's it!
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 04:19 am | 58th Post |
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| I shrunk too .I was an inch taller .What really stinks is my DD who isn't even 13 yet is passing me and my almost 9 year old is very close . The kids are going to be tall and my son is just a big boy.I feel very small next to them .
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Posted: Wed Jul 9th, 2008 03:17 pm | 59th Post |
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leet44 wrote:
You know Denise as a *joke* dh and I would say If we only would have had the dog and kitten first we may have thought twice about having kids
I understand!!!!! My DH and I both never got the "maternal/paternal" urges, so we decided to stick with feline kids!!!!! I'm post-menopause now (thank goodness!) and we have never regretted our decision to be child-free.
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clgcruiser wrote: I'm 5'0"!! Used to be 5'2"! I know where it went-to my azz and my stomach-somehow I got all squashed down. . . Mebbe somebody dropped a car on me. . . Yeah, that's it!
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goodml wrote: clgcruiser wrote: I'm 5'0"!! Used to be 5'2"! I know where it went-to my azz and my stomach-somehow I got all squashed down. . . Mebbe somebody dropped a car on me. . . Yeah, that's it!
X 2!!!
I know of which you speak. My 5'9" oldest pats me on the head and tells me I'm short. I USED to be 5'5". Now I don't know how tall I am, but I know I'm wider in some places. I'm using Cindy's excuse.
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| Whenmy kids act upon a ship I toss 'em over the side. We had 4, now we are down to 2. But the two we have now are VERY well behaved!
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Posted: Wed Oct 1st, 2008 12:27 pm | 63rd Post |
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hot4acruise wrote: Whenmy kids act upon a ship I toss 'em over the side. We had 4, now we are down to 2. But the two we have now are VERY well behaved!
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Posted: Wed Oct 1st, 2008 01:30 pm | 64th Post |
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BeckyThane wrote: hot4acruise wrote: Whenmy kids act upon a ship I toss 'em over the side. We had 4, now we are down to 2. But the two we have now are VERY well behaved!
x 2 An excellent plan!!!!!!
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