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Posted: Tue Oct 14th, 2008 11:56 pm | 5776th Post |
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY JOE 
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Posted: Tue Oct 14th, 2008 11:58 pm | 5777th Post |
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Evening all,
can't believe so much has happened since the last time I posted...some good and some not so good
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 10:48 am | 5778th Post |
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Good morning everyone,
It's back to the normal routine
 Happy belated birthday to Joe
I read that yesterday and then when I responded I forgot have that I had read.
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 12:51 pm | 5779th Post |
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Mornin' .... I imagine Al is resting up  so he can stay awake tonight to see his Phillies capture the NL Crown
Not such a good year for Pirates  EH ?
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 01:33 pm | 5780th Post |
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Good morning.
Capt'n, I'm always resting up . It would be nice to clinch at home, but I'd rather not have them do that. Let's get it over with.
Judy, glad to see that you guys had a good time at the beach.
I have no idea what we'll do today and I love it!
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 04:57 pm | 5781st Post |
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Welcome back Judy!!
Emma's home today - wasn't feeling well this morning.
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 05:43 pm | 5782nd Post |
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DaytonGirl wrote: Hello, Nice day here. Bright and sunny.
I still haven't finished my review but I did start writing it. Things have been stressful around here since Dennis and I are seperating. It's hard to concentrate on much.
I have an appointment today and I really look forward to going outside.
Becky, I am SO SORRY to hear that, I really am......
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 05:59 pm | 5783rd Post |
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Well, Sara and I had a BIG talk last night, she spent HOUR'S crying and cuddled up next too me.....
It seems that she is VERY, VERY, VERY AFRAID that something bad will happen to Thomas and I and that we will never come home.
She has been researching the crime statistics in Bermuda, she actually would prefer that Thomas and I do NOT get off the ship at all, it would be safer.....
My Cousin's murder, I guess, has just rocked her world. It is NOT safe out there, ANYWHERE....!!!
She is even scared of a "Rogue Wave" happening to our ship......
Her fears are VERY REAL TO HER so, I can NOT dismiss them. I just am overwhelmed by her trauma. She just cries ALL THE TIME.....!!! I told her I would cancel the trip yesterday, but, she said not to, because it is all paid for and she doesn't want us to waste thousands of dollars. But, then, her tears never end......
I KNOW, well, I THINK I know, that she will be OK. Theresa is not that bad, she is not mean to Sara, she actually loves Sara VERY MUCH....!!! Which is also part of the problem because Theresa NEVER leaves Sara alone and Sara feels "smothered". Theresa just wants to spend LOTS of "quality" time with Sara......
I have to call Cayman Airways and see what can be done about the tickets I bought for next year, will I get my money back minus a cancellation fee? I have to e-mail the Turtle Nest Inn, I paid a deposit which I believe is non-refundable. Oh well, a loss of a few hundred dollars will be better then this trauma that my Daughter is going through.....
I will wait to cancel my Majesty cruise. Maybe by next October, Sara will be in a better state of mind......
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 06:32 pm | 5784th Post |
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Frick_&_Frack wrote: SJ - Glad to hear you like your new dentist. WE DO, WE DO....!!!
I hate searching for new doctors/dentists and haven't since 1999 (well, for primary care anyway). I'm pretty sure I'm going to have to get a new doctor soon. Yesterday, he didn't even check my eye or nose (both of which are painful - I can barely blink at this point)....  Heidi, you REALLY ARE QUITE FUNNY....!!!
And, I'm sure Sara will calm down and all will be fine. She's used to you "being there" and these very short breaks can show her that she really is growing up and can rely on herself a bit too.
At this point, I am not so sure.......She REALLY IS unconsolable......
Did you  yet???? Soon it will be time for  and  and 
Nope, not yet..... I will PROBABLY be running around like a LUNATIC on Saturday.....!!!
BTW, the website for the emoticons is:
http://www.vpsingles.com/icons.htm
I LOVE THESE EMOTICONS.....!!!
     
THEY ARE GREAT.....!!!
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 06:33 pm | 5785th Post |
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gsc500 wrote: Welcome back Judy!!
Emma's home today - wasn't feeling well this morning.
Grace, how is Emma feeling now....???
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 06:36 pm | 5786th Post |
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Judy, I am glad that you had a GREAT TRIP.....!!! EXCELLENT.....!!!
 
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Posted: Wed Oct 15th, 2008 06:41 pm | 5787th Post |
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Suesan Jean wrote: Well, Sara and I had a BIG talk last night, she spent HOUR'S crying and cuddled up next too me.....
It seems that she is VERY, VERY, VERY AFRAID that something bad will happen to Thomas and I and that we will never come home.
She has been researching the crime statistics in Bermuda, she actually would prefer that Thomas and I do NOT get off the ship at all, it would be safer.....
My Cousin's murder, I guess, has just rocked her world. It is NOT safe out there, ANYWHERE....!!!
She is even scared of a "Rogue Wave" happening to our ship......
Her fears are VERY REAL TO HER so, I can NOT dismiss them. I just am overwhelmed by her trauma. She just cries ALL THE TIME.....!!! I told her I would cancel the trip yesterday, but, she said not to, because it is all paid for and she doesn't want us to waste thousands of dollars. But, then, her tears never end......
I KNOW, well, I THINK I know, that she will be OK. Theresa is not that bad, she is not mean to Sara, she actually loves Sara VERY MUCH....!!! Which is also part of the problem because Theresa NEVER leaves Sara alone and Sara feels "smothered". Theresa just wants to spend LOTS of "quality" time with Sara......
I have to call Cayman Airways and see what can be done about the tickets I bought for next year, will I get my money back minus a cancellation fee? I have to e-mail the Turtle Nest Inn, I paid a deposit which I believe is non-refundable. Oh well, a loss of a few hundred dollars will be better then this trauma that my Daughter is going through.....
I will wait to cancel my Majesty cruise. Maybe by next October, Sara will be in a better state of mind......
SJ - sorry that Sara is going through this.
I really advise you to get some professional counseling for her. I can see that your cousin's murder has made her even more insecure. While this may be a normal reaction so close to when it happened, if unaddressed, it may worsen. You can't baby her forever. What happens when she goes off to college? Are you going to go with her? Or will she stay home forever?
And face it, no one lives forever. How devastating will it be decades from now if her dependency doesn't lessen?
As an ONLY child extremely close to my parents, I can totally empathize with her. Growing up, it was just me and my parents. They were my entire world and I was wholly dependent on them.
I use to have fears of something happening to them all the time and wondering what would happen to me. I had an emergency suitcase packed with my piggy bank "life savings." At that age I thought if Mom & Dad were gone, I needed to make sure I could survive on my own. I even strategized wearing lots of layers to maximize how much stuff I could bring. What was I thinking?!!
I eventually out-grew these extreme thoughts and fears. The fears were still there (heck, I still don't want to think about my parents gone) but I learned that there are no guarantees in life and active fear is pointless.
In my case, it helped when my parents included me in all their financial and personal decisions and information. It was a sense of "control" in a life that seemed all dependent on them. Being "in the dark" sucked as a child. But my parents started "cluing me in" early with me. I helped them open mail and write out the checks for bill payments, etc. when in grade school. They checked everything when they signed the checks.
Now, I handle most everything for them, personal and business. Now, I'm NOT advocating full disclosure of finances, etc. with children, etc. Sam doesn't think our kids need to know everything or anything. BUT it helped with me. I too was a very INSECURE child.
My case is very different from Sara. She's lucky to have you and Thomas at home with her. I hardly ever spent time with my parents as a child except in the car because they worked such long hours - dinner was after 9pm. But she is pretty old to not have resolved some of her fears on her own so I really encourage you to get some professional help for her.
Actually, I personally believe it's a good thing that she is open about her fears with you. It's better than if she kept it all bottled up. At least this way, she can get some healthy help.
Best of luck to you all.
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 01:13 am | 5788th Post |
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Hello everyone,
Waiting for the debate
Busy day today we had a minor accident yesterday when I was off, that's 5 for us this year. Saugerties the district north of mine and where Jerry works had a major accident yesterday a truck rear ended a van stopped at a red light. Monitor that was on the bus is in the hospital and we got the invitation to her b-day party yesterday. Crap happens but this year so far is sure coming in like a lion.
SJ, I agree with Grace that Sara needs to talk to a professional, the murder seems to have effected her more then you imagined. It sure couldn't hurt but will surely help somewhat.
My Christina was like that when she was young, wouldn't be without me at all, one reason I became a Brownie leader, as she wouldn't go so I became the leader and made her go with me, then after my son was born I started working part time driving a bus just to get her away from me for a little each day. It worked wonders as now she is a very outgoing young lady, joined the Navy married a nice man in Japan and moved out of state. Thinking about it now I wish she didn't get that independent and move so far away  Just kidding 
Grace hope Emma feels better real soon, it's the time of year.
Everyone enjoy the debate
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 02:29 am | 5789th Post |
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Suesan Jean wrote: gsc500 wrote: Welcome back Judy!!
Emma's home today - wasn't feeling well this morning.
Grace, how is Emma feeling now....???
She's much better now. Thanks! Her throat is still a bit sore but she's more herself after some down time.
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 11:03 am | 5790th Post |
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Good morning fools.
Another day in paradise.
Well the debate was a good one last night, better then the first 2 or the VP's
Another long day today I have the second half of my course tonight so it's a 7 to 7:30 day again today. Glad there's only 2 more days left this work week. Rain is in the forecast for us this weekend.
Grace, glad to hear Emma is getting better, Is she going to school today?
SJ, How is Sara doing today? Have a great visit with Joanne after your cruise, sounds like fun.
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 12:10 pm | 5791st Post |
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Mornin'
Big Al you recovered yet  ..... Phillies got it done, but I think they are in for a bit of a problem with the AL champs 
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 02:38 pm | 5792nd Post |
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Philadelphia Phillies, NATIONAL LEAGUE CHAMPS!!
Morning all. My DS called last night during the bottom of the 9th and we celebrated the last out over the phone . I agree they might have trouble with the Rays (notice I have buried the Sox), but that seems to be the recent National/American League history. Sometimes I wonder how much the DH affects things. On the other hand, when you have grown up being a Philadelphia sports fan you learn to revel in whatever successes they give you .
Grace, glad to hear that Emma is feeling better. Tis the season you know.
Judy, what a pain with all the accidents. At least there haven't been a lot of serious injuries in your district. The weekend is coming.
SJ, maybe some help would be good for Sara. You could also discuss with her that you will be with other people on the island and not in the areas or situations where there is much danger of crime.
Looks like today has been designated as clean the windows day. Oh joy!
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 02:50 pm | 5793rd Post |
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Big Al B wrote: Philadelphia Phillies, NATIONAL LEAGUE CHAMPS!!
Morning all. My DS called last night during the bottom of the 9th and we celebrated the last out over the phone . I agree they might have trouble with the Rays (notice I have buried the Sox), but that seems to be the recent National/American League history. Sometimes I wonder how much the DH affects things. On the other hand, when you have grown up being a Philadelphia sports fan you learn to revel in whatever successes they give you .
Al I would be glad to send you my thesis on this very subject! I don't think I have a soft copy but you could hire a truck to deliver it to you. It was the only one that I truley enjoyed working on. Basic conclusion ..... it matters, alot
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Posted: Thu Oct 16th, 2008 03:47 pm | 5794th Post |
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I agree with ALL of you on Sara. She DOES NEED some help.....
There is not enough time to set up an appointment with a therapist right now before we leave, but, I do have an appointment with our family Doctor to see Sara and I trust him to guide us to the right therapist for Sara.
Sara spent all night crying, clinging to me, telling me, "Please don't die, Please don't die".... it is actually starting to scare me.
Her fear of us dieing has morphed into a HUGE MONSTROUS THING.....
My telling her that everything will be OK does not help......
The thing is, I KNOW she will be OK, it is just the she doesn't know she will be OK.....
Maybe, Hopefully, our Doctor will have some words of wisdom......
I did cancel the Grand Cayman trip for next year. I will be getting a full refund on the plane tickets. No cancellation fee or anything, which is nice.
No such luck on the Inn I booked us in. I paid for half the week as a deposit which is non-refundable. I have up to May 2010 to book another trip there. At this point, I don't know when we will ever get down there. Anybody want to go to Grand Cayman....??????
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Posted: Fri Oct 17th, 2008 12:02 am | 5795th Post |
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SJ, it's a good thing Sara is going to see the family dr before you leave. talking to anyone will help some.
Glad to hear that there's no fee for the flights sorry about GC. Maybe you will work something out before the 2010 deadline.
Al, I follow very little baseball, played it a lot on the farm when I grew up other then playing all I know is I like the Mets better then the Yankees, sorry Lee. Congrats to the Philadelphia Phillies.
The monitor that was in the accisent has a broken back she was in the back seat where the pick up truck hit. I feel so bad for her, she's such a nice lady. She is in Albany Med. Center. Worst injury for any of the surrounding districts in years.
We got out of the course a little early tonight so that was good and tomorrow is Friday but most imp[ortant I have no meetings today I was in meetings from 9:30 to 20 minutes ago. Maybe I can get some work done off my desk tomorrow.
Well, off to get a salad for dinner.
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Posted: Fri Oct 17th, 2008 11:01 am | 5796th Post |
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Good morning everyone.
TGIF!
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Posted: Fri Oct 17th, 2008 01:45 pm | 5797th Post |
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Yep folks, it's Friday :D.
Certainly feels more like Fall out there again. Looks like a trip to the farmer's market (sticky buns) and the orchard.
Hang in there everyone, the weekend is nigh.
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Posted: Fri Oct 17th, 2008 02:35 pm | 5798th Post |
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HAPPY
BIRTHDAY
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Posted: Fri Oct 17th, 2008 02:58 pm | 5799th Post |
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I hope you really enjoy your day and that it goes quickly and quietly until work is done, then PARTY!!!
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Posted: Fri Oct 17th, 2008 03:58 pm | 5800th Post |
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Happy Birthday Judy!! 
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